Who Uses NLP?

Anyone who:

• Interacts with people in any way.
• Desires to improve their ability to connect with others.
• Is searching for ways and means to personal growth.
• Is tired of letting their past stop them from achieving what they desire.
• Wants to be at the top of their game.
• Knows there has to be more to life!

In our seminars, public speaking events, consulting and coaching activities, we have met people from a variety of backgrounds and interests who have benefited and continue to benefit from their knowledge and proficiency with NLP:

Using Emotions to Manipulate People

If you want to emotionally manipulate people then you need to think of yourself as an artist who skillfully performs his art that the viewers of the art are only able to see the end result and not understand the intricacies of his workings.

You already know that you are taking a risk by trying to manipulate others so; the key here is to fly under the radar and avoid getting caught. When you are learning how to manipulate others do it slowly starting with your friends and immediate family. This way of practicing can be compared to a martial artist practicing shadow boxing before he takes on real opponents.

Now, that you know how to start we will discuss what to do in order to successfully manipulate people. Specifically, we will see how to use the dominant emotions of people to get what we want. The dominant emotion varies from person to person. For instance, a person who is interested in stock markets, horse racing or Forex will succumb to tricks that target the greed factor. On the other hand a person interested in charity, philanthropy or church will be open to any suggestions that give him a 'feel good' effect.

Once you know the dominant emotion of the person then you can tailor your words and actions that appeal to the dominant emotion of the person.

At first, you will find it difficult to figure this out but as you observe their patterns of behavior you can 'crack the code' in a few days.

The interesting thing is once you start doing this, you will create a set of 'personality profiles' in your mind that the time taken to break the code will keep reducing every time until you reach a stage where you will be able to spot patterns in a person's behavior within a few minutes.

Finally, we will see what type of attitude is required to learn effective manipulation. What you are about to read is a bit heavy but after all manipulation is not a light subject so pay attention. You need to think of yourself as a scientist and the world is your laboratory and humans are like the rats in your laboratory. A scientist injects different compounds on a rat and observes its behavior and then records the results. Likewise you need to constantly learn how people respond to different stimulus and record the observations in your mind for latter use.

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How Changing Your Vocabulary With NLP Can Improve Your Life

I once dealt with a client who had frustrating issues in his personal life. He was having difficulty finding a girlfriend, his family had troubles back in his home country and relied on his ability to speak English to survive and his parents were in general very negative about him and his life choices. At 27 he still lived at his parent's house, but he was afraid of moving out both for how he would cope and how they would cope without him. He was regularly getting panic attacks and was constantly overwhelmed with anxiety.

How To Do A Self Anchor

Throughout our lives, we unconsciously anchor many things in our mind. Whether it is our mother's cooking and the aroma that fills the room or the sound of the ice cream truck, when we smell or hear things, we are often brought back into the memory of the smell or sound.

Knowing how the mind work, we can utilize anchoring to help us feel good and accomplish things that we may otherwise feel uncomfortable doing. The most simple case would be speaking in front of a large crowd. When utilizing anchoring in this case, we are able to bring ourselves back to the time where we were more confident or whatever resource it is we need, and arm with this memory, we can go further in our presentation.

How To Anchor Oneself

Keeping with the fear of speaking in front of a large crowd, we will go ahead and think, what is it we will need, what inner resources that we will need to be able to speak in front of a large crowd.

Once one finds that inner resource that is required, one may close their eyes and begin to allow the mind to wander off into a memory where they had this resource in the past. Keep building up memories, or even staying with the same one but making sure that one is fully associated within the memory.

Once the person feels they are at the peak of the memory, full embodied into the memory, they should anchor themselves by either putting together two fingers or touching somewhere on their body that they wouldn't often touch, like an ear lobe.

After anchoring the memory, one should try it out later and see if it works. If not, one should sit down and go over the process and perhaps finding a stronger memory or piling it with other resources.

Having this technique is useful in many situation and eventually, one would be very comfortable to do what it is they want to do without even anchoring.

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